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Weddings and Marriages...Big Difference.

9/12/2015

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Last weekend I attended a dear friend’s wedding.  It was a lovely weekend filled with many festivities that culminated with a couple of “I do”s.  At the beginning of the week, I let the bride know I would be covering her and her fiancé in prayer throughout the week.  Because let’s face it…the wedding, that’s the easy part.  That’s the fun part.  That’s the part where you get all dressed up and share special moments with friends and family.  The marriage.  That’s different.  That’s the hard part.  The marriage is where the rubber meets the road and things get real…real fast. When the music stops, the marriage is what is left.  And it is so often overshadowed by the wedding.  Our society has actually gotten so carried away with the “wedding” they are actually diagnosing brides with post-ceremony depression.  The bride goes through withdrawal from being the center of attention and goes into depression.  How absolutely ridiculous is that?!? (Disclaimer to this most recent bride…I think this is near impossible for you since you pretty much planned the most intact wedding in less than 3 months while traveling the world from work.  Plus, you aren't self-centered enough to suffer from post-wedding depression....just saying)

At the end of the day, the wedding is fairly meaningless.  It’s a party.  The marriage is what will stand the test of the time.  And let’s face it; it takes a whole lot of prayer to jump on the train.  Thankfully we have guidance on how to be successful in the role of husband and wife.  (Disclaimer…I have yet to be a successful wife. – if ever there were such a thing.  This particular blog includes my thoughts, feeling and lessons I’ve learned on my journey and more importantly, the way I will strive to be in the future.)

I’ve always loved the verses about submission and love as they relate to marriage and the Church in Ephesians:

Ephesians 5:21-26, 31-33
And further, you will submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.  You wives will submit to your husbands as you do to the Lord.  For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of his body, the church; he gave his life to be her Savior.  As the church submits to Christ, so you wives must submit to your husbands in everything.  And husbands you must love your wives with the same love Christ showed the church.  He gave up His life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by baptism and God’s word…As the Scriptures say, ‘A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife and the two are united into one.’  This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one.  So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself and the wife must respect her husband.

And I also believe these verses are often misunderstood.  Several weeks ago, the pastor at my church gave an amazing sermon on these verses and on how God designed husband and wife to interact within a marriage.  It was one of the first times I really considered the “needs” of husband and wife by design within the marriage relationship.

God created women with an unique need to be loved – enter husband to love his wife with his entire being.  And God created man with an unique need to be respected – enter wife to respect him through heartfelt submission.  And by submission, I do not mean “Dear husband, I will do whatever pleases you…I am your servant forever!”  I think God meant, “Dear husband, I will respect and honor you as the man in my life. Love, Your Wife”.  Submission isn’t about servanthood, it’s about honor and respect.  And as long as the husband keeps loving and the wife keeps respecting, the unity is blessed and as intended.  And when a husband and wife come together to meet each other’s unique needs, you have marriage as outlined by God.  An unity where two people are one.  I think the unity breaks down when love and respect stray from the relationship.   In a way, the relationship doesn’t work without both elements. The marriage bond is weakened when the needs of husband and wife aren’t met.  I really believe keys to a successful marriage all come down to love and respect. 

A wedding is supposed to celebrate the start of a marriage.  The start of a journey.  A treacherous journey that is both beautifully simple and challenging at the same time.  So as my dear friend and her new husband set off on their journey, I continue to cover them in prayers.  Prayers for a  marriage built on relentless love and respect and that those two elements hold tight their bond of marriage.

Weddings, marriage and a couple disclaimers,

Ashley Lucille 

2 Comments
Louise Belich
9/12/2015 02:37:40 pm

You got it right. Awesome blog with God at the helm of any marriage. Thank you for putting this into words. You are a gem.

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Michelle Vega
9/16/2015 04:44:22 pm

Couldn't agree more, Ash! Our society is obsessed with weddings and it's only causing more harm than good. I even fell victim to it myself. I feel so much wiser now!

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